Why Doesn’t He Want To Commit – 2 Reasons Why He Is Stalling

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Something has caused you to be searching online for all the possible reasons to explain why the man in your life doesn’t want to commit.

I do not know how long you have been seeing him. Maybe it has been few months, maybe a few years but one thing is certain. There has to be something that he is doing or saying or (not doing or saying) that has led you to believe that he doesn’t want to commit.

I am not sure at this point what commitment means to you because I am not familiar with your individual situation.

The real questions you may be asking are: why doesn’t he want a relationship or why won’t he propose or why won’t he marry me or whatever other question that signifies greater commitment to you by the man in your life.

And clearly you want answers.

We, as women, are very good at dreaming up reasons or justification, as I like to call it, for why a man doesn’t want to commit. The truth is we are very good at coming up with them either by using a reason that we have heard him use before or rather talking ourselves into it.

Most of the time, we know damn well we don’t believe that that is the real reason. We actually think it’s a crock and a half but we try to convince ourselves that that must be it!

Sometimes we call up our girlfriends and talk them to death about the situation, asking them their opinion on the situation as if their opinion matters that much in the grand scheme of things. This has nothing to do with them at all. All that matters is YOUR opinion on the situation and what you plan to do about it.

Sometimes we think, it’s not the right time yet and when such and such happens, he’ll… (insert whatever action that means commitment to you here). When the “such and such” happens and he still hasn’t done what you convinced yourself that he was going to do, you are in the same boat, nothing has changed and you are still asking the question “why doesn’t he want to commit?”

Or worse, a man will sometimes say after you have prodded him on some issue that means a lot to you, “yes ok, we’ll… (insert whatever you want him to do here) by the end of 2012” for example. In March, 2013 and it hasn’t happened, you’ll still be wondering why he doesn’t want to seal the deal and commit?

Now you do NOT ever want to be in this situation. Avoid it at all costs.

Frankly, I think we spend too much time on this because I think that there are only 2 reasons to explain why a man would stall on making a commitment to a woman he is seeing.

So what are his reasons for not wanting to commit?

Here they are:

1. He doesn’t want to commit at all. If you are a normal, healthy, secure person you only do things that you WANT to do. I can tell you that NOBODY gets me to do anything that I do not want to do. It doesn’t matter what reason I come up with for not wanting to do the thing, whatever it is, the bottom line is that I do not WANT to do it so I won’t do it. End of story.

In order to get me to do it, something has to happen to inspire me to do it, to make me want to do it. I suspect that the man in your life is the very same way. Heck, YOU are the same way too I bet. People do what they want to do. Fact.

2. He doesn’t want to commit to YOU. Very similar to him not wanting to commit at all is him not wanting to commit to you. I do not know the dynamics of your relationship but one of the truths that you have to face is that he may not want to commit to YOU. Again, it doesn’t matter what reasons he may have for this. That is not the point.

Just make sure never to lose sight of the big picture. I have spoken to many men about this just to get their opinion and they ALL said the same thing, the KNOW pretty early on, certainly by the end of a year whether they want to “commit” to a woman long-term or not. They KNOW.

As far as I am concerned, these are the only two reasons you need to have at the forefront of your mind when trying to answer the question of why he doesn’t want to commit or do anything else you want him to do for that matter. You cannot force anyone to do anything however hard you try.

You cannot force a man to want to commit or commit to YOU specifically. And let’s just say that you did force the issue, why would you want a commitment out of that knowing that he didn’t really want to commit to you in the first place?

No, there has to be a better way to get what it is that YOU want and there is! You just have to know what works best in these circumstances! Know what works best and you’ll have whatever commitment you want in no time at all!

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